For starters, a little about me and my background.
The result of an unplanned pregnancy, I was adopted at birth into the family of an Independent Fundamental Baptist (IFB) pastor. I was raised in a strictly conservative baptist home and an equally strict IFB school through 4th grade. After that we home schooled, moved to a new church in a new state where we stayed for the rest of my formative years. After I finished high school, I spent the summer working at an IFB summer camp in Louisiana, followed as expected but rather reluctantly, by my first semester at the “best school there is” – Bob Jones University. My time there is in itself a post for another time. For now, I’ll let you know a little about the IFB cult.
The Independent Fundamental Baptists are not traditionally considered a cult, but to those who have been on the inside, it becomes clear that not all is as it seems. The IFB is considered ultra-conservative – no music with a rock beat, contemporary christian music, or anything other than orchestrated chorale music. Women’s dress must be ‘modest’ – the knees must be covered at all times, no pants, nothing sleeveless, and everything must have a sufficiently high neck so as not to show back or cleavage. Everything worn by both men and women should be sufficiently loose so as to not show too much of their form. This forces them to either make their own clothes or buy things one or two sizes too big, creating the signature ‘frumpy’ look of the IFB. Hair on men is to be trimmed off the collar and ears, and is to be styled in such a way as to all lay in the same direction. Gelled or ‘bedhead’ styles are not allowed. Alcohol and tobacco are not tolerated and are considered sinful even in small amounts. Piercings are only allowed in the ear lobe for women (in some cases not at all), but are never allowed for men. Tattoos (like alcohol, tobacco, and piercings) are seen as ‘defiling the temple'(I Corinthians6:19) and are not allowed unless you already had the tattoo(s) before ‘finding the right path’, and even then it is expected and encouraged that you have them removed.